Tarnished relationship Behavior

So as we go further into our lives,We are more cautious on who we let in it.

But at the same time,sometimes tarnishing something that could be amazing.Why that is,that is right because we are tarnished.And as we get older,wiser and feel more alone.We look for mates,looking to settle and feel loved and cherished.We as life has gone on,the majority of us have been hurt in so many ways.Not all being bad,but all being a lesson for future.

Sad thing is,I say tarnish.Because as someone tries to get close,every absofrickinglutely wall is enlarged to cock block or vagina block any warrior.Now yes I know alot of people have such aweful intensions and just want another piece off ass.But not everyone is like that.Yes I know getting hurt or back stabbed,fucked around on or had someone vanish.It sucks,hurts and can be fucking painful.But walls up only make us carry on alone.Our behavior can be nasty,rude,cold,with a constant need to push people away.I will not say that some people you should not say shoo little bird too or fuck off.But sometimes we dont know until 10 months in or more.At any given time a perfect relationship can end over almost anything.Mostly another peice of ass.It really is a bad learning curve lesson of life.One I can say myself is a fucking bullshit one to learn.But hey we will never be able to make the perfect man nor women.Even if we could,it would be boring as fuck being it would all be fabricated and same shit day in and day out.I listen too and have alot of men and women write me.About friend zones and being pushed away when all signals are there.I think sometimes people get friend zoned for a few reasons.Obviously when the person is not for them at all for attraction or anything else.Some people just dont click.And sometimes you can see the attraction so much.But you can also see the terrified look of the possibility of being hurt,so you pull away like a puppy woth tail between legs.Regretting it later.Then at other times,the person really just wants a friend of the opposite sex and is not looking for nothing else.Either way,one must always respect another one's decision.Being tarnished is alright,your not the only one.Other people have walls just as big or bigger.And it is not to measure who has been hurt the most.It should be measured on making the right steps to find the right one to knock down them walls and help each other build new one's TOGETHER.If you are still broken inside from a previous.One should rethink of dating til the time is right.Just remember to progress with happiness is never easy but always worth it.Guard the walls,but open the gate sometimes and check out something new.But hating on the opposite sex because what another did.Not a way to attract a partner in the first place.Be cautious and aware,but be open and take steps.But keep that head up and dont categorize everyone.Life should get better and soon your love flower will glow and you can go with the flow.Rudi Jensen