Readers question answered

Dear Mr.Rudi,

Mine name is Francine,I live in Miami,Florida. I am having problems with my husband,I am unsure if he just hates me or is cheating on me or both. He does not compliment me in any way and if so. It is because I asked him if I looked good. There is no seduction or romance at all what so ever. The communication is when he wants and if he dont wanna. He will just walk away in middle of the conversation. When we have sex, I have to ask him to touch me. I am on top most of time as he will not do anything. My initial thought was cheating. But I am convinced he just hates me. I have caught him cheating 3 times now. Of course I am just paranoid he would say. One time I brought up cheating and he said it happened so long ago. It dont matter now. Well it does matter to me,am I wrong for wanting to know he cheated. I was sent a picture once with him and another girl. He said it was photoshopped,we are respectable people. Why would someone lie about that.. Another time he was intoxicated and went for a walk with another women and took hours and hours.. This other women rubbed it in my face they had sex. I am dying inside and need to go or stay. So now I do not do anything correct for him wanting him to leave. I know to you that must sound wrong and in your words fucked up. I burn his food,shrink his clothes and etc. I have thought about poisoning him a few times. But I got rid of that thought. I know your not a shrink or a counsler Rudi,but you are very honest and will be blunt about this. Thanks for whatever you write. Destroyed Francine...

So first of all,thank bloody hell you never poisoned him. He likely deserves it. bUT GLAD YOU NEVER DID.. I know being broken hearted is a hard thing to deal with. But killing someone over it does two things. Destroys your future by being behind bars and losing the chance to find someone to love you forever the right way. Ok Francine I will be direct and very blunt. He is a fucking dog and a lazy one to boot. In this day and age,many house holds are fucking aroundd on each other too fill voids and emptyness in their lives. Yes it is very shitty,but seems now people do not care about working on things. But rather just think bumping the uglies solves life's problems. Now yes I think he does sleep with them from how you have stated. Now the picture being photoshopped. If I was you,I would of punched the mother fucker in the nose followed by a kick to face. But in reality we cant do that or poison. But after he denied that, YOU SHOULD OF LEFT... Now he is not the only one at fault here Francine. You girl need to shake your fucking head,whether it is a man or a women. Dogging someone is not cool.. But letting them continue to do it. NOW THAT IS NOT COOL EITHER... No love is worth that pain at all. You should of seeked out help sooner. I say leave him and cut contact unless you have kids,if no kids are present. YOU HAVE NO TIES, Start a new chapter and protect your yourself and pay close attention to red flags next time around. Dont give up thinking nobody is out there. They will come into your life when your both ready. Too many people men and women let this shit go on because of love. Yes I agree love is rare and hard to find. Someone fucking around on you is not LOVE at all. They are taken advantage of you. Even dogs dont go fucking everything in site. You keep your head up Francine and know there is love out there just for you..Rudi Jensen