Why competition amongst siblings and favoritism should not be present

I am sure you have seen this,heard of it or seen it on t.v. This happens more and more as I get older. I see this daily from parents with one child and then few years later the new baby comes. And the shit show of little kid feelings arise to high levels.. to the levels of just having 3 kids and only favoring one. In our house hold growing up,my little brother was always the baby. Still is the little tit baby of family. He helps mom out with money,but treats her like shit. Through life with our siblings,favoritism happens and happens at fast rates and does not pick race or country. The term oil of feelings,the traffic jams of sadness,the rage and madness. The feeling alone come ten fold. Now the shitty thing for any kid in this situtation is they will go through life asking questions in there own head. Feeling left out and left in complete stress. Loss of that love feeling,loss of placement in a family. What did they do wrong to be not included more. Of course I could go blue in the face talking about it. There is the favoritism and then there is competition of siblings over it. So of course the favorite child is always on top and there is no question about that. But but but...siblings will play that against each other. My brother was a little fucker,sure he got a kick out of stretching the truth to get my older brother and myself a ass whooping. He was always on top with mommy and daddy. He always made sure that something came up so important if we did have a few hours with dad as we got older. For many years the pain was so unbearable,I would sit and watch other families to see how the other kids were treated. To my surprise this went on everywhere. Was hard to swollow in many ways,the mind set I had growing up was just crazy. Was always thinking it was me,but when I sit back and look now. Sure no doubt I was the black dog in so many ways,but know now it was them and not me or anything I did. Do I care to this day,fuck no they can all keep themselves and have their little fairy tale world. And I think the same to any parents who have favoritism in their family,you are only destroying the child's feelings. You would be stupid to think or continue to think otherwise. The problem is real,I know some of you have at least seen it once or twice within your own lives. A friend who has a baby and it is all about the baby while the other is often forgotton. Now in no way do I say or mean this is a deliberate thing for most. It just happens when a baby is born,it is the one's that let it happen as the baby grows older. When the kids are few years old and it is still happening. That is the real problem and a fucking sad one. I never wanted my kids to feel that ever in life. I always wanted them to know that they each touch me in so many ways. You can see the effects on the other child,distant,withdrawn,acting out. All in nature of sadness deep down inside,that burning feeling of feeling helpless. Helpless to the fact you are feeling alone and everyone around you has just plain out forgotton. Well it is out there and alive,I know this lady through my lady. She has a year old baby girl and a 10 year old. Well that 10 year old dont get mommy selfies no more,is always disciplined harder. She is left out of the pictures still,I have not seen a fresh posted picture for months of the 10 year old. But the baby is everywhere on social media and the only thing talked about is the baby. So shit like this pisses me off a great deal as I was that kid. The shitty and very sad thing about it is....parents are just blind to this until the child starts to act out for attention. Then boom will then parents realize something is up,at that point it is already done. The emotional damage and abandonment has settled and done,ouch. Sometimes people tell others they are doing this and they still dont realize it. Mostly like any parent you dont wanna listen to someone tell you how to raise your kid. That goes straight to the loony bin feelings parents have deep inside."kill,kill,kill" I will avoid anyone that treats their kid like shit,forgets them because of the baby,new boyfriend and ect. As the children get much older in their teens,the battle is still on. But trying to compete with the other siblings even more for affection,acknowledgement,love and etc. You can guarantee the teenagers know wtf is going on. Because the baby,favorite or spoiled one likes to make sure mom and dad are aware of everything bad. Yes that is right,getting the other sibling in trouble. I seen this in so many families over the years,the tit baby I call them. Will go out of thier way to get the other punished and to stay off the good side of mommy and daddy. So at this point yes the little spoiled shitface brother or sister has still got the advantage. All through the years,the kids are dying inside with pain and issues we will say.. They are present and ever so never ending. At this point the kids just make a estrangement with everyone in the family. Shit even in adulthood this shit goes on in my birth family. Quite fucking sad for the most part. But kids should never have to build walls up to hide pain,anger or their emotions over family. Fa,ilies should love all their kids,not sayiong that your first born or last born are not babies at heart natually. But sheltering the kids from each other and building internal wars is not. Anyway dont be that Parent. Rudi Jensen