Child games playing parents

So I see this shit and hear about it all the time. But never so much in the spot light. It is so embarrassing to a parent.. It is amazing how we hear of all these parents playing games with kids. But we never hear all the stories about the kids playing the parents. Making them hate one another and playing them against each other period. One week it is "Oh I have my mommy this week,Daddy is asshole" and I will ignore him. Next week it is "Mommy is a bitch" and now I will ignore her. It is like a plague of immaturity on both parents and the kids. Quite sad kids play this game,myself I think that when this happens. Step back and see the pattern. Can either let them walk on you or let them be free til they grow up. Monkey see and monkey do. That only works when kids are young,when they are 16 and above. It is pure games,immaturity and straight out dangerous to all involved. Feelings get crushed and so do hearts for all parties. Especially if the kids have kids on their own. Nothing like playing games with kids. Just losers and fucking scum use kids as a weapon. Thing is in all reality,we will always have broken homes. Whether we try to keep our families together. Mom's and dad's will always have departures in love. It really just is life. And to some kids that means playing both parents to the longest yard. Always one parent is bad as far as the other knows because of what the kid is saying. So I have this this first hand and it really is sad and to hear about how much other parents talk about it is sad also. So having two partents is great of course when separated. Dont like one parents rules,choices or attention. So easy to drop them for the other again. I know the kids at young age have no idea the pain it cause's to the other parents heart on these back and forth games. But as teenagers and adults they know damn well what it does. When stories are going from a standard white lie to a huge disaster. One can only imagine all the things parents think about. Like examples "What did I do to deserve this? Everything was fine the other day". "Why does my child hate me so much?,I am the only one who has been there everytime for them,only to be treated like dirt again and again". Asking yourself,why your child does these games over and over. So as much as I hate to say it,I think it is ok to play parents for some things. But to run,evade,ignore,treat like shit one parent to the next..That is a whole new ball game. To be able to turn your emotions off so easy as a young adult is not good,switching feelings like they are dispensible. To be able to cut off contact 100% at free will weekly,monthly or yearly. It is bound to make parents say fuck this shit.GROW UP. Alot of the parents I have met and have this problem. Have told me they just walked away from their adult kids,not as a parent. But as moral support due to constant games. The parents with kids at home,just stated they cut back on being so relaxed and giving into their every fit. I recommend the same thing to parents,being played by your kid and only treated well when they want something. It is very low as a adult or a kid,parent or a grandparent. Just some things in life happen and this is one of them. Sometimes there are obvious reasons. But for most,parents are always left in the dark on too why they drop off contact for the other parent only. I used to think most was done across the globe for attention,still do some. But some of I think the kids just wanna get even for being mad. And wanna up set the parent. At other times I think the child feels in complete control. But in the end,the parent has full control in which the off spring will never get. Our kids are our kids and for us to play them like they do to us,would leave them in dispar and upset. It is not parent like to give up on your kids,but at some point. They need a lesson to be learnt about the way they treat their parents. And yes walking away until they respect you is a option unless you have little one's. Of course in no way I mean forget about your monkeys ever. Just dont put up with the bullshit any longer. The pain,broken feeling inside every few weeks or months is a harsh reality for some. They continue to try and satisfy their attention seeking child or children draining them of any energy they have. Dont be this parent. ©Rudi Jensen