Relationship bouncing after years of marriage

So I am tad old fashioned when it comes to love and dating. I believe you stay faithful and work through any harsh shit that comes your way. I believe that when you break up with someone you should not rush into another right away. So wrong for the person you jump to and yourself. When you spend 5 years or more with someone. Shit you need to learn to do things solo, live by yourself and love yourself. Get close with those you never were with, take your kids out if you have kids. Learn about yourself, thing most people forget about. When you are with someone for so long, you rarely do or did things solo. Everything was a routine and now it is gone. You need your own routine, not to be jumping into pretend love every few weeks or month. This shit I see so much and of course see many reasons why. Starting with loneliness, desperate to be held and felt wanted again, someone to laugh with again. Don't get me wrong being by yourself is rough and one of the hardest things we can ever do, but we really need it. I find it is those people who never got in touch with their inner selves. They are the un easy pricks and moody bitches out there at some point for a while. People attach themselves after a long marriage and death comes. Cause they are used to having somewhere there, alot of times it is not for sex and laughter. But to have someone to just share that space with because it is empty. I have watched many people jump around in the last few years. From my friends breaking up and my kids grandfather after losing his wife. I think people rush way to much when someone dies or someone leaves them. It is really sad that some peoples hearts just cant heal. I never can blame a person, but try to convince them to love and learn about themselves. One thing that separates us in the end, is when we have a relationship. We dont really learn to love ourselves at most, let alone like ourselves. Now it is real hard to actual find that love while bouncing from one to another proposing marriage or your love for someone after days of meeting. I notice with the older crowd, it is like they think it is a society thing to remarry. We dont have to remarry in life and can still live, love and enjoy life with someone. But again back to rushing and bouncing from one to the other. Life is lonely in every way no matter how much we try. We will always hit a lonely streak, hole or spot. It really is life and as we get older alot of people are rushing because they dont wanna die alone. As shitty and as cold hearted as it might sound. It too is life at all aspects, some accept it and some bounce around like a bunny. Neither is really good, but what some find comfort, others frown apon. I am one of those, solely because I strongly believe you can't truly love again after one. Til you learn to love yourself, loneliness is a hard struggle. But we need it, I encourage anyone to stop chasing love, ass and comfort. Til you bring yourself comfort, we all in life. And I mean all will have a sour patch in life. But we have a even bigger one jumping forward, when we should be sitting back. Of course these are my opinions, but also my observations after 30 years. I have no degree in anything for the human mind and how it thinks. But I am a good judge of charactor of how things are going. Just from seeing it with friends and family, then of course all the people you know on the internet. It is like a fuck fest of broken emotions out there, hard to overlook. It is sad people need to feel only as a whole with someone in their life. And cant find it in themselves to be comfortable alone. Even if temporary, I see when people die and you have been with someone for so many years. It is rough on the mind and not about sex to find someone right away. It is about the used too and the comfort. You have lost it and it is the same way breaking up with someone. But with that, most people still keep some hope they will get back together.. One thing people never realize during all this, especially one's with kids. Is the effects on all around, bad when just over break ups. But now when it is over death, it is so sad. In most case's for all involved, because it is just not the spouse that lost someone. It is the kids and other famnily, so when they see all the swapping going on. No one really thinks of those moments, I have got to see this first hand with a special women close to me. Watching her father go back and forth. Looking for comfort, rather then enjoy his grandkids, his own kids. Which for most part has drifted away from since the passing of his wife. I watched the emotions from this lady and her brother. It put them into major shock about it and how their dad has dealt with this passing. So really don't matter what life we come from or what life we have lived. We all have feelings, some getting in the way of what they never should. But that is the human brain and it will never change. We can train our brain all we want, but when we lose someone. We lose controls of emotions and when we are older, it is even harder. Then we try to replace the comfort we had, not wanting to be alone as we will soon die as well.. So I can never stress to anyone, no matter your age. We should always get to know ourselves, some of us right out of high school been with someone. So losing that is tough as fuck cause you never had time to learn about who you were cause you had someone. Take things easy, no matter our age. We need to learn about ourselves, love ourselves and be at whole with time alone. Be happy by yourself for a bit.... Save your mind and anothers.. Rudi Jensen

Be groovy,

Be stellar,

and always

Be YOU...

No mannizing

No womanizing