Friends and bad lovers

Hard reality in life sometimes is watching friends be with someone. Can be hard to sit and watch. Yes those one's that use, work over, scam your friends, treat them like shit, trying to move in fast, talk about having kids right away. Hard to watch it all unravel, hard to say nothing. Hard to give opinions about it without hurting feelings or destroying friendships. But that is the hard draw, myself I tell it how it is no matter what. Ask me what I think, I ask you ...Want a Rudi answer or a what you wanna hear answer. I still give only one, blunt. It is hard and yes it loses friendships and also gains them 10 fold. I dont believe in moving in with someone before a year, introducing kids for 6 to 8 months, no house keys, no over 3 days stay. I am old school and believe in saving the heart and mind. Rushing over being so lonely and desperate is what gets peoples head in the wrong space. The the vag and bag wars keep people rushing. But when it all turns sour and fast and you were like..told you so. Shit does happen yes, but no as well. People are not guarded enough when it comes to coochies and hot dogs. They let down the guard and all hell breaks loose. To see this in a friendship with a women or a man can be just ouch, crazy and cause yourself to go mad. Friendship carries deep bonds, binds that can and will be destroyed by the outside world. Relationships or not... When we see our friends be played and scammed upon, that is the draw of the line and when the friendship crashes. At most so does the new relationship causing the friend to lose not only themselves, but their friends. I think if you like, love and created a bond in your relationship with your friends. No matter the hurt it can cause. I think anyone should be blunt, not rude. Just blunt and not because your jealous your friend dont have so much time anymore. Life is life and we can choose to watch the shit show. Or we can choose to say, do and deal with emotions, trauma, broken bonds, broken hearts and minds. Just saying it may be hard, but guess in the end goes by the bond and relationship whether you sit and watch. Or you confront and pursue. Anyway keep your friends, family and lovers hearts at interest. Rudi Jensen