Being taken advantage being a helping hand

Helping hands, good deeders and then those that abuse the fact. So dont get me wrong, doing good deeds and helping someone out. Can be the greatest feeling we can ever have. But so many take advantage of it. Drive someone a few times or help someone move. You end up being the delivery guy for them always or the always move guy or girl. One or two rides are fine, but what do do when it exceeds it ? Who pays gas when not offered, how to stop the obligation ? Then we have the helping your friend out to do a quick reno and then they want whole house done. They offer no money, barely help back and etc. So doing some things are ok when it comes to good deeds and being a helping hand. But so many times people take that kindness and extra time and abuse it. Wanting many rides, many renos done and many errands done. When is enough ? What if the appreciation is not there. Least you can do is offer lunch or gas for my time. If I renovate your house and do a quick repair its one thing. But if I am gonna paint, fix walls, build anything, frame. Money should be offered and what ever you can. I have done reno's saving home owners thousands of dollars and never offered a dime. To me this is very sad. A helping hand is a hand to help when in need, not to abuse, over use and shred. Not like the life that rolls yearly has not created some abusers or helping hands. People do little jobs, driving and errands for people out of kindness, with their own free time. Now to use someone for many hours or a whole day. Oh very much someone should offer some money in every way. This is why nowadays its hard to get help, people have ruined so many wonderful, kind, helpful people out there being abused for their nature. If someone saves you 10,000 doing your house, offer something. Someone drives you all over town doing errands, least offer gas. I like to say time is money unless your a helping hand. Then some time is kindness and then the rest is time worth money. Thing is if we did every good deed to make another happy, our time, our needs and our household money is no where as we put so much time elsewhere. But again this is why so many people stop helping others. Kick backs in a normal helping hand situation when not being abused. You go home feeling like million bucks, get used and you go home feeling like a punk no good time waster. Our world needs helping hands for everything. I try to tell myself everyone is not the same, but when push comes to shove. Most will take advantage of the good deed. Appreciate the help you receive in life as it can go anytime. Rudi Jensen