Giving up your life for another

WTF is up with everyone and the giving up their whole life for a newbie man or women. I get it, new food is always nice on the taste buds. But to give up all activities, all friends and all anything. I will never understand. Now dont get me wrong. Pie is pie and can feed the hunger. But really I have watched 5 close friends give up everything for some Tilapia cream pudding and some cheesy smokies. All activities from sports, hiking, river activities and more. Its all excuse's. now and most not the same person. Moody fuckers. Too me it makes the relationship fall. When we meet someone the flare is there and the stare. That is hot as fuck. But when you just have nothing besides a lazy inactive partner when you are active. It takes a hit on the relationship after a bit. Honeymoon stage dont stay forever. No matter how happy we are with our partners. We need time away from them its that simple. Its hard not to judge your friends for flaking out and etc. Space is space and we all need to connect with others. Maybe its just me and I wonder why people dont wanna have friends and activities anymore because they met a lazy spouse. I have a chronic hiker and back country friend fit as fk. He met a women two years ago. He is over weight and on the verge of deep depression now. No great love is worth losing your mind, body or life over. I like fish, but not enough to give up my life. Really that sounds fishy and smokey to me. But whatever floats your boredom and libido right ? Still leaves me not understanding. I love my fish pie. But also like doing shit without my partner. Things that make you go hmmm in life. I guess its sad watching and listening to excuse after excuse, watching your friends get depressed over some Tilapia pudding or some cheese smokey. No vag or knob is that persuasive to me. I love steak and pizza and could indulge daily. But take me away from everything else. I would change too. Just confused I guess.. Rudi Jensen