Relationships suck the life out of you

Wow can relationships ever suck the fucking life out of you. Whether its 3 months, 5 years or 20. The relationship itself will only ever last as long as it is worked on for. Once one or both give up, what the fuck you got? Nothing is right, when it all fails from complete silence. You touch yourself more then you touch your partner. Yup things gone really bad, thing is when we stop. Everything stops, a relationship is like a machine thsat needs manually run. One you take the manned persons off the controls. It is sliding down the hill or on its way to collapse from the ground up. People tend to forget when things start to slow, do something about it. Spice it up, ladies your man got with you because yoyur sexy, funny, down to earth and more. Why take that away, that makes your man slip away. Be sexy for him, feed his hunger for you both sexually and mentsally. Because being mad, distant and playing games with feelings, sex and companionship is low and parasite like. And you men, your women got with you cause your burly you, handsome aspect, conversation and more. Dress uop for them sometimes, do the dishes, dinner and movie, play frisbee and etc. Both sides lose with this everytime, sometimes one is so mad the other did something. Then just goes from there to not there, communication is the only way to get through any of it. One thing I will say, if you are cheating on your partner because you think they cheated on you, but you were unsure. But did it. Well you are a loser in every way. Without proof, guilt is not proven. Therefore the next act will infact destroy you. So I know all too good about hidden affairs, considering when it happened to me. I knew, seen and kept living and then suffered a great deal in the mind over it. When I confronted I heard two things, 1 it was over 15 years ago and 2 its over. So yes hard struggle. The cheating out there can really fuck with anyone's mind as it happenes so much. To me if you are cheating and still staying with them, parasite comes to my mind. I see so much in the world of cheating with friends, strangers and etc. It is sad and even more sad knowing that everyone just wants to upgrade. In my case mine just said she needed more and when she told me that she had already been bumping the uglies with this bloke a few times. It totally ruioned us more then ever, we had issues. But that was the cream of the crop that made me turn my love to hate. Which is what is going on is so many house holds. Instead of realizing, so many relationship problems come from us being comfortable in said relationship. We stop doing the things that make the attraction therefore making a back track of everything we worked for or to get with one another. Listen in fucking relaity, when your done. Just fuckign get the fuck out of there and stop the lack of caring game. This being used to, using kids as an excuse or anything other is just lame as fuck. We fall out of love, we find something more appealing and desirable. I know if I am with someone who dont wanna have fun, sex, conversation. I be straying not staying, sure not playing into that shit. Thsi is many people's reality at home sadly 1 out of every 10 couples I know have a rock solid relationship. The rest dopnt fuck, talk, play or go out together. That is bloody sad, no way I wanna be with someone that dont talk, be intimate or have fun. Not sure where this world and relationships are going. I know one thing forsure that more then half of them have cheated on their spouses. My inbox on my website shows me that part for the emails I receive. In reality in another 10 or 15 years, be slim picking for relationships that are real with the way things are going. In the end its like a vacumm is consuming us while we get fucked around on, ignored or pushed out the door. ©Rudi Jensen